Happy New Fear

Happy New Fear

Attention Earthlings : We’re in the Future

Christmas… and Hanukkah …and the holidays… no matter how, or what, you are celebrating, it can be stressful and exhausting.  Each year I am cautiously optimistic that I will survive unscathed. 

As a child I was in a very abusive household and every day I was stressed out,  but Christmas time, was even worse.  There was disappointment and arguing and too much alcohol and relatives storming off.  There was a need to pretend that everything was wonderful when it was not. 

As an adult, I decided to make my own kind of holiday and try to smother the oppressive memories from the past.  I’ve been successful to an extent and have opened my house to others that have had no place to go on December 25th because they have no family or are far away from them.  I hate to see anyone alone during the holidays. 

It’s been a lot of fun over the years to bring together people around a dinner table that would normally never meet. 

I  survive with a little marijuana and some good wine and a big turkey dinner; the result being  a lot of laughs and full bellies. 

The last couple of years it has been just family and a few friends.  If you surround yourself with people that you love, that are not toxic, it will always be a beautiful event. 

I  go to the same place for New Year’s Eve; wherever The Sadies are playing.

The Sadies

It just so happens they have been at the same venue in Toronto for the last 20 years.  The legendary Horseshoe Tavern.  It is filled with like-minded people who love to ring in the new year with the best live music.  This year was no exception and the opening bands were extraordinary… “Tommy Wade and The Country Rebels” followed by  the rocking “Minus 5”.  Mary Margaret O’Hara arrived after midnight to perform “The Snake”, backed by The Sadies, and the place was electric! 

Tommy Wade and The Country Rebels
The Minus 5
Mary Margaret O’Hara

I feel fortunate that my partner is a musician because it has forced me out on the eve of another decade to dance and laugh and be amongst fellow humans.

I know I could easily stay at home, curled up on the couch, watching television and falling asleep before the clock strikes midnight but there will be plenty of time for that when my old rickety body can’t withstand the excitement. I also make an effort to dress up, even though it seems I’m spending each year in a bar and not a ballroom. I remember my mum when she would go on out New Year’s Eve and she unveiled her best dress and jewellery and embraced all the glamour of the night, so I had a glorious example of how to do it right. I love seeing people dress up for the night. The more glitter and glamour the better! It reminds me of old Hollywood when I see a shiny sparkling head piece and a new year’s horn.

I completely understand that there are people who dread New Year’s Eve because they feel lonely and isolated ,and sometimes, being in a huge crowd can make you feel invisible.

There are no rules for how you choose to celebrate another 365 days on earth and if you want to spend it with your pets in the comfort of your home,  that is absolutely fine.  I honestly get it.

Mr. Smokey Robinson gearing up for New Year’s Eve

Going into a new decade, which literally is defined from past decades as  “the future”, is a little scary.  I also have some questions.   

Where are the flying cars that were on The Jetsons?  Where are the jet packs and moving sidewalks?  Where are the robots…. Oh wait… we have robots.  I even have a Roomba that cleans my floors as my cat eyeballs it suspiciously.

Actually, when you think about it, we are destined to be the Jetsons… if the planet survives.

I can’t imagine my grandmother, who was born in the 1800’s, wrapping her head around all the  things we have today including social media.  She passed away in the 1970’s and we didn’t even have computers then.  She wouldn’t be able to fathom the fact that I can video chat on my Iphone , with my pal Val in England… while I’m driving my car.  I mean,  I can do that if I want to! 

The Jetsons cartoon was supposed to be in the year 2062.   I predict that there will be all those things portrayed on the show… and more by that year. 

I most likely won’t be here to see that.   Fingers crossed,  there will be a society that cares more about each other and not put $$$$ above human life and the planet.

A society that has been beat up from years of racism and hate and war …that we are experiencing right now… and growing tired of that pattern, deciding to change things to achieve an ideal world that embraces and loves all living things.  A society that takes care of one another and sees all living creatures as equal.

I’m an optimist and I think its attainable.  I try not to get wrapped up in the current political climate in order to protect my sanity and not destroy my belief in fellow humans but it is not easy to do that when we are constantly bombarded with the fear of total destruction.

I wish there was a button or an app that could let us experience life in another culture; in another country; in another climate where we could see that people are the same everywhere and appreciate that.  We share the same feelings and loves and fears, regardless of our skin colour or religious beliefs… or non-religious beliefs… people are people. Maybe that too will be accessible in the future. There are too many people that never travel beyond their own small town and they have no idea what the real world is like. They watch the same news channel that feeds them the same bullshit that instills so much fear and suspicion regarding people that look and sound different from themselves. Peel off everyone’s skin and we are all identical on the inside.

I love traveling and have experienced the fact that, no matter where you are, there is common ground where we people are concerned. Even in the most remote parts of the world, human beings will connect with each other.

So, here’s to 2020,  and a promise to make a change to protect the planet and to love your fellow man.  And don’t forget to love all the animals that help sustain our world.  They are innocent and precious. 

Thanks for reading!  2020 will be the best year yet if we can just be conscious and get out of our own way.